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ADVICE FOR GIRLS
No really, it's fine.
Okay girls. As a female, it has occurred to me that a LOT of us misuse that line. Don't. If he says "I want to go out with my friends tonight instead of over to your grandparents house, is that okay?" and you say "It's fine," MEAN IT. As much as you would like to think that you two are SO CLOSE that he can read your mind and would know when it's NOT fine, there are virtually no mind-reading boyfriends out there. So remember: No, he is NOT supposed to know. Dating you does not make him a psychic.Let's see how this would work:
Him: I want to go out with my friends tonight, instead of going over to visit with your grandparents. One of the guys got tickets to the premiere of the newest Vin Diesel movie, and they decided to make it a guys' night out. Are you okay with that?
You: It's fine.
----the next day----
You: *fume fume fume*
Him: What's wrong?
You: You KNOW what's wrong
Him: Uh, no?You: I'm not telling you then. You can just go out with your friends every night.
See the problem? If you convince him that it's fine when it really isn't, and then you get mad at him as soon as he's back from his guys' night out, NO he's not going to immediately realize why. Be honest with him. If you mislead him intentionally by telling him everything is fine, that's not honesty. Getting mad over it after you said "It's fine" is just flatout unhealthy for the relationship too.
Chivalry
Sometimes it is important to drop the Superwoman theme, and just let a guy do things for you.... If he's willing to grab the check, let him! If he holds the oor open for you, be flattered.... There aren't too many guy left like that... Guys that will fight for your honor, and die for you.... I'm not knocking woman's lib, but sometimes a guy should be able to do something special, without getting a lecture on equality....
Comunication is key
If your boyfriend asks you whats wrong...TELL HIM! Dont leave him out in left field and make him guess, because then he can't do anything about it! If there's something wrong with your relationship, or you just want to step things up a bit, let him know. The worst he can say is, 'Why dont we wait a little longer.' And if that's the case, then why should a little longer be a problem. If you really and truely love him, then you've got all the time in the world.
ADVICE FOR GUYS
Lets cut to the chase
Ok, so you have found a girl you like, obviously because you want to date someone. I'd just like to forwarn you that the bs about girl's being unpredictable is a myth. I would say that girls more or less act the same way most of the time, depending on the type of the girl. Type as in shy, adventureous, secretive, suprising.. you get the idea. The point is, if you want to get the girl, you have to understand the girl.Now, thats what it boils down too, understanding her, and making yourself appealing to her. I'm not trying to tell you to change for her, or not be yourself, but get to know her before you try to dive right in. Ok, now here comes the part on asking her out on a date. The best way to do this is ask her to go somewhere to relax or have fun, but at the same time, a place where you can talk to her. This is better done with a group of friends at first, like hanging out, watching a movie, the arcade, etc.Start to give her hints. Not strong ones, but things like smiles, jokes, play with her a little bit. Devote a good ammount of time to her, as well as your friends, so she picks up the hint. After a few "friend hangouts" and she has picked up the hints. Ask her out to a movie, with just the two of you. Ok, back to the understanding types of girls. Most girls like the courteus type of guy, he smells nice, wears clean clothing, and has good manners. Open doors for her, go out of your way to let her know you care (without actually saying). But other girls, such as the shy types might just want to talk about a topic they like. Like I said, get to know her. Watch her a bit. Don't stalk, but I mean get to know her intrests.
Checklist before you see her:
Brush Teeth (im serious)
Wash your face (but don't worry if you have a few pimples, she wont care that much)
Put on deoderant (the stuff that lasts for a 12 hours anti-pers :) )
Dress in clean, clothing. (in a style that she would prefer, try to get something with no holes in it )
Gel your hair, just a little bit.Ok that should do it. Now remember to talk to her. Talking is the key, don't just stare at her. Just talk about friends, school, whatever. Wait until she uses profanity, before you do. Smile. Joke around a bit, not bad jokes though ;). I hope this helped. Oh, and by the way, try not to make up any lies to impress her. They just did you into holes. And Be yourself!
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